Published Fri May 19 2023
Understanding what women look for in their ideal man can be a complex puzzle. While preferences may vary from person to person, there are certain qualities and characteristics that tend to resonate with most women. In this article, we delve into the qualities that women often seek in their ideal partner, providing insights that can help men navigate the dating world with confidence and authenticity.
Genuine Respect and Kindness:
One of the fundamental qualities women seek in their ideal man is genuine respect and kindness. Women value partners who treat them and others with kindness, empathy, and respect. Displaying acts of kindness, active listening, and practicing empathy are key factors that contribute to building a strong foundation of trust and emotional connection. It’s great to be nice and kind but the double edged sword for this can be a guy being too damn nice, where he turns women off!
Being a pushover, not being grounded and having his own opinion. Suppressing his feelings where he can be passive aggressive rather than stating what he’s truly feeling because he's scared of having uncomfortable conversations that can lead to a more healthy and strong relationship in the long run.
When a guy is too damn nice, he will not want to banter with women and tease them because it’s not in his nature because he is “nice.” But women absolutely love this! This is why even though many men can be doing great in their career and have the financial resources but yet, still have a hard time attracting the right partner for them.
You have to understand that teasing is the only way you flirt with women. Look up in the dictionary what flirting means. It means: “If you're interested in someone romantically, you might flirt with them, which means to chat them up or tease them in a playful way.”
Emotional Intelligence and Communication Skills:
Effective communication is crucial in any relationship, and women appreciate men who possess emotional intelligence and strong communication skills. The ability to express emotions, actively listen, and engage in open and honest conversations creates an environment where both partners feel heard, understood, and emotionally supported. Not to mention, being a bit vulnerable is a strength, not a weakness! This is where couples can connect on a deeper level and get more intimate.
Another thing as well is women want a man who's a good storyteller. Think about it. What’s the best way you can connect with anyone? Is it through just facts and surface level talks? Absolutely not, it’s through stories and experiences that people can FEEL and can relate to us that makes us have a deeper and stronger connection. This is a very underrated skill to get good at. Most men don’t actually work on being better storytellers and this is a huge reason why they have a hard time connecting with women.
Confidence with Humility:
Confidence is attractive, but when paired with humility, it becomes even more appealing. Women admire men who exude confidence without being arrogant or overly self-centered. A balanced sense of self-assurance, combined with humility, demonstrates security in one's own identity and the ability to prioritize the needs and feelings of others. Being confident is super sexy to women! And also being socially confident is super important as well. If you are not as socially savvy, you can always sharpen this area of your life!
No doubt, with the right practice, you can be both confident with your work and also with people. If you are shy, timid and socially unskilled, this can be a major downfall to attracting your ideal mate. Women are more picky than ever and they are not just going for the guy who only has a good career.
With women now having careers and not relying on a man's income to be the only one to work, they rather choose someone who has a good sense of humor and takes care of his physical presence. Evolutionary side, he looks like he can protect her. Meaning he at least looks fit or for bonus points, looks strong. Shows that physical prowess.
Ambition and Drive:
I would say most women are drawn to men who possess ambition and a strong sense of purpose. Having goals, passions, and aspirations can create a shared sense of motivation and growth within a relationship. Women appreciate partners who are driven to succeed, not only in their careers but also in personal development and other aspects of life. I like what Jim Rohn says: "The way of success is the continuous pursuit of knowledge”
A man who is constantly improving in his life is very attractive than a man who is lazy and not ambitious with life. I’ve seen this happen too many times when a guy gets into a relationship with a woman. Before getting in that relationship he was ambitious, working out, hanging with friends, having hobbies/interests he enjoys doing. And as soon as he gets in a relationship he loses ambition for all those things. This can turn women off and I've seen women lose attraction for guys in this scenario all the time. Never stop evolving as a man!
Sense of Humor and Playfulness:
In a mens health survey of more than 1000 American women ages 21-50, 77% of women ranked a sense of humor as their number #1 must have in a man, beating out intelligence, passion, confidence, and generosity!
Another study indicates when a man is funny and the woman laughs and succeeds at making her FEEL some type of way inside of her, he is more likely to go on a date with her than a guy who acts smart and makes no effort at humor. I cannot express this enough. This is a huge thing to have or add into your arsenal. The good thing is that if you feel like you don’t have the best sense of humor, you can sharpen this area of your life. Charisma can be improved!
This is just another soft skill for all you technical people;) In my coaching program we go very deep on this because the opposite of this is being boring and making the women feel nothing about us. Having platonic and mundane convos that bore women to death! This is why when you go on a date with a girl you like, after the date she will say this: "Hey you were nice, but i didn't FEEL a connection.” Or ghost you and not tell you anything. Have you heard this before? I know in the beginning of my journey I experienced this a lot. What she is saying is, I gave you a chance but i didn't feel any attraction about you. I don't see you as boyfriend/long term potential material.
While every woman is unique and may prioritize different qualities in their ideal partner, certain attributes tend to resonate universally. The qualities discussed in this article, such as respect, kindness, emotional intelligence, confidence with humility, ambition, a sense of humor, and trustworthiness, are often sought after by women.
By embodying these qualities and nurturing personal growth, men can enhance their chances of building strong, fulfilling relationships based on mutual understanding and connection.
What you should do is look at yourself honestly and ask yourself, what is it that I'm strong at and what are the things that I'm lacking so that I can sharpen those areas! This is key to having success in your love life!
If you are in a place of your life where you are looking to find your perfect partner and want to accelerate this process. Send me a DM and we will Schedule a Consultation call.