Published Mon Mar 14 2022
Getting a girlfriend without using dating apps is a lot easier than you think.
But that being said, it will be a bit uncomfortable because it will mean that you actually have to talk to women.
Yes, I said it - talk to women.
Be social, get out of your comfort zone, make small gestures, smile and build fun, playful conversations with people.
And no, I do not mean in virtual reality or in video games, I mean in real life.
Now you're probably thinking, ok where am I going to meet women in real life? I work 9-5 and I don't have much time.
Well, the best time to go and meet women is in your transition periods.
What is a transition period?
A transition period is a time in between something that you are doing in your daily life.
So, let's imagine you working the usual hours every single week. The average guy goes to a coffee place when he wakes up, maybe walks into Starbucks and then as he opens the door, he sees a very attractive woman in line so he gets behind her as he waits to get his coffee.
The man has a choice to either talk to her and form a new relationship with this woman, or for him not to say a word to her and possibly never see her again.
That’s a transition period. After he grabs his good ol 'cup of joe, he then heads to work. Possibly he works from home, or he works at his office or 50/50.
He then has lunch and he's hungry so he decides to get some food at a nearby restaurant that is in a shopping center. Most likely when he arrives, he will see 2-3 women he is attracted to. Maybe the hostess at the restaurant, or a woman who's eating lunch by herself or another woman in line.
That's another transition period.
He then goes back to work and then depending on his lifestyle activities, he may go to the gym. He goes and works out and then again, he sees a ton of women he's attracted to but he doesn’t talk to them.
As you can see, there's plenty of opportunities for him to talk to women in his everyday life and potentially find a relationship, it’s just that most people think you have to be out at night or on an actual dating app to start something.
What I just described are transition periods, and each person has their own activities/hobbies that they like to do outside of work, but it is critical that at least you have some hobbies that you can do and see other women in your daily life. (Add fun activities to your daily life that give you exposure to talk to women.)
When you meet a woman in real life, you bypass the whole online dating process of getting matched, then texting, setting up a date and then seeing if you guys click. You can immediately see if you're attracted to her and if y'all have some chemistry, if you like her personality and other characteristics. Online dating does not have these capabilities so easy to read for you at first.
As you can see, if you get out of your comfort zone and initiate conversations with women during transition periods of everyday life, if you have courage and confidence and understand how to have a playful conversation with women and other people, it will be easy for you to find a girlfriend and connect without using dating apps!
How do I know this? Because a ton of my clients have found their girlfriend in real life. And so have I, and just in case you think that talking to women at the gym is bad, well that's how I met my gorgeous loving girlfriend. If it wasn't for me initiating a conversation at the gym with her, we would have never met. It’s been one of the best decisions that I made in my life.
It’s also possible for you to do the same thing. No matter what has happened to you, there's a great woman out there for you. All you have to do is be ready when the moment arises! Fortune favors the bold, and the bigger the risk the bigger the reward.
Years later when you guys are married, people will ask how you guys met. You can tell them your love story and how you took a chance. Because of that, you have met your dream partner and your kids will think you're a hero!
So, take the chance! Go for it, talk to the girl that you like!
If you have trouble with the process of talking to women and attracting them, as a Men’s Dating Coach, I would love to help you crush it in your dating and love life. You’re one conversation away from finding the one.