Published Sun Dec 12 2021
Getting a girlfriend online is not as hard as you think. However, there has to be strategy before sailing your ship into the sea. You have to have a Plan. As Winston Churchill says, “Failing to Plan, is Planning to Fail.”
Most guys do exactly this, and this is one of the major reasons why guys don’t seem to have much luck in online dating apps. They don't have much of a strategy and also don't have a Plan.
It used to not be like this. The competition online wasn't as bad a few years ago, but since Covid-19 and where technology has been going, the percentage of people online has skyrocketed. And with new algorithms, the competition for men has become more fierce than ever.
So we have to have a plan. Let’s talk about the do’s and don'ts.
Since attention span nowadays is very short and people are actively swiping left or right, you need to have strong, solid profile pictures. Especially the first picture. There’s a reason people say “you never have a second chance to make a first impression” so much. It’s because unfortunately that’s how our brains are wired!If your pictures are bad, low quality, selfie in the bathroom kind of pictures, or your style is wack or you can’t really see your face, most likely you will not get many matches and the matches you do get will be not the ones you want to get matched with
If you are bothering to use online dating profiles to find someone, a strong foundation where everything is built in the beginning is key. If not, why are you even bothering? Your profile has to be maximized and optimized to fully fire, and then has to be a/b tested with different types of pictures to find the best results.
Sometimes the pictures that you think look good are not actually good ones; that is why you need opinions. What matters is what women think of the pictures, not you. After completing this step, you will have more matches with women, and you will have more opportunities to text them.
Now comes the online messaging. This is the biggest obstacle that I see men have the most difficulty with: Effectively texting them to meet them in real life and go on dates. The goal of online dating is to meet them in real life, not to stay in the chatbox forever.
So what we want to avoid is having super long conversations in the online chats, and having fun and playful conversations where you eventually ask her out and she gives you her number. Then you can set the date to meet her.
What happens is most guys will match up with women but then the conversation will fizzle out, girls will un-match with him because the conversation will be a bit boring and mundane, and she’ll try to avoid talking to him anymore. This repeated pattern can make a man bitter, angry and frustrated.
This is why we have to learn to be more playful when it comes to texting women, so that we can meet up with them and see if there's a connection. If there is, you will keep going on dates with her and she will eventually become your girlfriend if the pieces fit together right. And if you hit the jackpot, that person could be the person who gives you a relationship that will be passionate and meaningful.
These are the dos and don'ts of online dating. If you can resonate with this and want to get or find a girlfriend online, then send me a message. We will revamp your dating profile, and learn how to effectively text women to set dates and meet them in real life, so that you can find the perfect woman for you!
“Love is the goal, life is the journey.” - Osho