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CyberDating Lie Detecting
Did you know that Online Dating is the top moneymaker on the Web? Chances are good that if you are single, you have joined a site or two yourself. If so, you've probably asked my CyberRomance clients' top question too: "How can I tell if they are lying?" Lot's of ways! Here goes: First off, much of "the problem" of Internet lying is media over hype. What kind of interest would there be in a story about all the honest people who are on the Net? But of course some people do lie, and being concerned about who is and who isn't lying makes a heck of a lot of sense. Reasons people lie:
All make terrific reasons for people to lie online. How to detect lying: A truthful person will be "congruent." That means that all the information they give out -- their words, body language, they way they live and dress, everything -- fits together and contains no contradictions. People who lie will be incongruent in some way. Here's what to watch out for: 1. How they use words: written, on the phone, or in person --
2. How they behave or the attitudes they exhibit:
3. In-person behavior clues:
4. Your own inner cues:
In Internet dating, or any kind of dating for that matter, keep your anxiety down, your head attached, and LISTEN to everything your date tells you in every way. People tell you about themselves constantly, from the very first second of contact. You have to be willing to hear it. Not only do they tell you by what they do say, they tell you by what they don't say. Many of these cues can come from simple distraction or nervousness, not deceit. New daters have plenty of reasons to be anxious. Signs of lying differ from one person to another. Don't let your own nervousness force a jump to wrong conclusions. Give your date a break and take some time. Often, Cyber daters move too quickly to the phone and/or a face to face meeting. Gone is the golden opportunity to safely ask questions and study answers slowly and over time. Vastly increased are tension and anxiety, which complicate clear thinking and judgment. With online dating, you have a tremendous advantage over meeting immediately flesh-to-flesh: You have a written record of what the other tells you. Make use of it! Take your time and get to know your potential Sweetheart the old-fashioned way -- through writing! About The Author Kathryn Lord, Romance Coach Subscribe at http://find-a-sweetheart.com/newsletter.html www.Find-A-Sweetheart.com / Kathryn@Find-A-Sweetheart.com
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