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No matter how you want to spin it, beautiful people are justthat, beautiful. However, to what degree does it play intoyou finding your perfect match? Seemingly, most of us are engulfed by a blitzing media thatsells everything from lingerie to exotic cars with somegorgeous blonde or brunette sitting next to it. An idea thatif it's candy to the eyes, it will sell to the general publicmore readily. While this concept is hardly new and not far from the truth,how important of a factor does it play in landing someonethat you could see yourself spending the rest of your dayswith? You would be surprised how shallow many adults are! The idea of bypassing personality for the most part andsimply sizing up a prospects physical attributes for apotential long term mate, can be nothing short ofdisastrous. So what is the hurt in holding out until you find a perfectmatch? You know, someone who has it all, personality,character, integrity, dignity, compassion, accountability,compatability, aspirations, and empathy. Did you notice I conveniently left out a flawless face, idealsmile, and a drop dead body? It is because in a long term relationship, the heart,character, and integrity will ninety nine times out of ahundred always win in the end. Don't get me wrong, there are beautiful people who havethe whole package, brains and beauty. Although, they arenot the easiest to find and not the easiest to tame. What I'm saying is, if a person knows they have the fullgammut of qualities, they know their marketability, so'you'd better bring your A game' if your going to spend timewith them, is usually their mindset. When speaking on the heart, intentions always come tomind. What intentions does a person have as they travelthrough their respective life? Are they about others first, and then themselves, or do theywant theirs first? This is a poignant question anyone canask themselves as a soul search in order to gain additionalperspective about their heart so as to know the path theyare travelling down. Once more, this is a quality to look for when screening apanel of people who you see have potential and peering through thin disguises can become a learned, efficient art. Question: Would you pass up an opportunity to be withsomeone who is not your ideal physical specimen but youknow they would be the perfect compliment to you andvice versa just to be with a less compatible, more attractiveperson? That question is what one should sort out before delvingdeep into a committed relationship. Your honest intentions usually mean everything to someone else and are the very hinge a single persons future can depend on. Being lost when understading intentions is not a viable option. Fact: Some of the most beautiful people I have ever beenaround are some of the least attractive to the eyes; theircaring, selflessness, attitude, and personality are impossibleto overlook, leaving the more attractive person 'somewherein a cloud of dust on a rural road in my mind.' Their heart is like a beacon in the pitch dark where light is less than sparse. It screams without saying a word! People with good hearted intentions are like glimmering diamonds.Finding them is not that hard if you know what yourlooking for. So next time you come across a less thanbeautiful potential mate, ask yourself, "is this person's inner beauty worth tossing away, or did you just find a gem?" --by Brian Maloney-ValuePrep.comWant to improve your personal values?Get high-quality relationship advicefrom a 'Logical' standpoint. Visit ValuePrep - Relationship Advice **Attn Ezine editors / Site Owners**Feel free to reprint this article in its entirety in your ezine or on your website as long as you leave all links in place, do not modify the content and include our resource box as listed above.
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